In order to appreciate Healing, it may be valuable to say a few words about Trauma.
Trauma is a loss of connection.
Our response to that is to try to 'manage' life. The typical way we do that is to tighten, close, avoid and generally shrink our vital energy. Because there is a limit to how much we can manage, the less we have to deal with the more it appears that we are in control. Really, this only leads to more loss of connection.
We operate under a perceived threat that we will be overwhelmed.
The symptoms we register include hyper-arousal :ever ready for flight or figh).
Constriction :narrowing, tightening, numbness, shutting down.
Dissasociation and denial: this strategy softens the pain, and is a way to deal with the horror, but at great cost. Chronic pain can sometimes signal a disassociated part.
Helplessness, freezing: the opposite of hyperarousal, the body tends towards collapse.
We can view all of these symptoms as messages, and respond in a way that allows Healing to Happen. With compassion (both to self or the other) we accept the situation, and allow the 'Isness' of it, the factuality of it.
Trauma needs time and love and touch and then it can heal, and that process can have deep and profound and life changing results. Trauma is not an easy teacher, but just because of that, it is a truly impactful catalyst for growth, and transformation.